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                                 Ali Siddiq            start with his My Two Sons ... on Youtube

Arthur Brooks is a social scientist, writer, speaker. He teaches MBA ers at Harvard Business School and explains to them why they aren't happy even though they are 1% ers destined for fame, glory, $$$.  He believes women want to be adored while men want to be admired. I'm not sure I agree with his binary distinctions but I do think that adoration isn't earned, necessarily, while admiration is based on actions and achievements.  I think its been proven that women judge men on how well they will provide for loved ones, especially children. Kindness is a major factor, too. Men, being the less deep creatures, judge women based on surface appeal. Broadly speaking, lesbians are idealists. Gay men have to figure out if they want to love their man or if they want to be him.  It's all a puzzlement. 

Herbie Hancock was playing with Miles Davis once in concert. He said the music was "tight, powerful and fun."  And then he, Herbie, played a horribly wrong chord that was a big mistake. Miles paused for a second and played something that made the wrong chord right. He didn't hear it as a mistake. He heard it as something that happened and found something to follow that fit.  

  I watched Laurie Anderson's 1985 Home of the Brave concert tonight on Youtube. I saw it at the Beacon theater 41 years ago. It remains the best entertainment I have ever seen. I spent a work day with her. She is a genius. 

  ... is a very Southern Gothic little girls name. Very To Kill a Mockingbird.  She was an only child in our neighborhood growing up - which was like being a rainbow colored, three legged, joke telling  unicorn. All the kids knew she always only drank ginger ale because she was deathly allergic to milk and had a mouthful of tiny, rotten teeth to prove it. If even the tiniest drop of milk ever touched her thin, pale lips she'd collapse right there on the spot, never to breathe another breath. All the mothers worried because she was always "as white as a sheet" wan and as thin as Popeyes girlfriend. Her always worried, overly  protective mother walked her to the school bus and picked her up for lunch and returned her to school and picked her up again at the end of the day.  My close friend Kit lived right across the street from her and whenever she hung out at Patty's house, she'd always have to untie her blond pigtails because otherwise Pattys older-than-the-othe...

...  is  the Roman Catholic doctrine that the bread and wine used in the Eucharist (Holy Communion) miraculously change into the actual body and blood of Jesus Christ, while retaining their external appearance, taste and smell .   I knew what the word meant in the third grade and even though from the get go I thought it was a crock, I went on to my shortly thereafter career as a cathedral parish altar boy who mastered Latin and getting out of class to serve at funerals.  et plebs tua laetabitur in te   tran sub stan ti a tion noun tran·​sub·​stan·​ti·​a·​tion   ˌtran(t)-səb-ˌstan(t)-shē-ˈā-shən  the miraculous change by which according to Roman Catholic dogma the eucharistic elements at their consecration become the body and blood of Christ while keeping only the appearances of bread and wine.      I knew this word and understood  what it meant in the third grade. and instead of introducing me to the be...